Therapy/counselling for couples
In our relationships, we don't just go through life events, we also give meaning to them. Together we can explore both the moments that shape us and the meanings we've made. We do this by thinking about how we talk to each other, whether we are talking about the right things and whether we have to agree in order to understanding each other's perspectives?
Some of these stories, we live day-by-day. Others we carry, inside. Some are passed down to us inherited from a family, culture, or community.
Some stories are easy to tell. Others are harder to put into words. And sometimes, we find ourselves stuck in a version of a story that no longer fits, or that leaves out important parts of who we are, or what we prefer. Couples often attend for counselling to help strenthening their ways of talking, also to listen, issues brought can include trust, lack of intimacy, depression, conflict, arguments, different communication styles, different parenting styles, different childhood experiences that are impacting adult connection and intimacy.
Strengthening Connection
Relationships can lose their ease when stress, miscommunication or long-standing patterns get in the way of intimacy and connection. Whether you’re navigating conflict, emotional distance, or recurring misunderstandings, Couples therapy offers a calm space to pause, reflect, and shift how you relate.
We’ll explore how both current dynamics and past experiences may be influencing your relationship making space for insight, empathy, and change. You might find new ways to hear each other, soften conflict, or re-imagine how you move forward together. The space may also support you to work through the decision to not be together and how to seperate well. Seeking support to help you through divorce proceedings can be less expensive that mediation and communications with legal professionals. While also addressing issues like parenting.
What might it be like to work together?
Every couple brings their own history. The stories you have lived through, the stories created together, and the stories that you carry separately. Sometimes those stories begin to clash, or feel too heavy, or no longer fit the life you're trying to build. It maybe that the relationship is exhausting and feels like the end is the only option, let me reassure you, that it is not necessarily.
In our sessions, I offer a steady, containing space to explore what's happening beneath the surface not to assign blame, but to understand the affordances and constraints of the current way of relating.
Coming together to talk can mean, that patterns that may include worry, silence, overwhelm, lack of trust, physical disconnect, sadness, distance, over time, begin to shift. It's about being able to speak more openly, honestly, and make sense of difficult experiences together rather than alone and then noticing the effect that this has had on you both and consciously deciding if this is acceptable, or if it can be replaced with what you would prefer.
I work with care and curiosity and am experienced in helping couples navigate feelings of being stuck or distant, to finding clarity, tenderness and satisfaction in their commuincation and understanding of self and others.
I offer couples therapy in Marylebone (London W1) and Swanbourne (Buckinghamshire), working with couples of all backgrounds and relationship stages — including those experiencing relationship breakdown, parenting strain, or wanting to deepen their connection. Sessions are held in a private, comfortable setting.
If you’re curious about how therapy might support your relationship, you're welcome to get in touch.
